Often, adult dating or hookup site guides target the pursuer, more than the pursued. In other words, most hookup site advice columns aim to help the person that pursues profile opportunities. And this is for good reason. Most of the time, it’s difficult to meet a hookup while resting on your laurels. An active hookup site strategy, one where you write thoughtful messages to potential hookup opportunities, works better than just hanging back in wait.
But there is another side to the tale. How do you get noticed on a hookup site without the aspect of active messaging?
Mediocre Profiles Attract Mediocre Results
One of the biggest issues we see on adult hookup sites is people unwilling to make any decent attempt at creating an attractive profile.
Allow me to explain.
The biggest reason to join a hookup site over a mainstream dating site is to cut the crap. Mainstream dating profiles are ripe with outlandish profiles that hardly reflect the authenticity or reality of the person’s life. Everyone wants to write their dating profile’s bio as the perfect match. Its a war to find the ultimate dating catnip.
When we move to a hookup site, we feel we leave those days behind. This is true, but often, it gets taken a bit too far.
When people end up on a hookup site like Fuckbook, they almost feel as though they need not put in any effort on their bio. The problem is, there’s a middle ground perspective that’s missing.
Yes, people on Fuckbook want to hookup over taking long walks on the beach. But it remains two people interacting with one another, so no one wants a dud, or a jerk. And your bio is the initial filtering out process.
If your bio is barren and lackluster, people can’t decide who or what you’re about. So they’ll just keep on scrolling.
You don’t need to write a novel. You don’t really need to focus on every hobby you have. But write something. Make it readable, maybe a little fun. Infuse some energy. Explain that you are “excited to meet new people”in some fashion. You need to feel more like a human, an open door, someone that’s welcoming.
Now, it’s important to understand you should never put up too much information, not just on a hookup site, but really any Internet site. Divulging personal information on the web can lead to opportunities for cyber-criminals.
Fuckbook Arrogance Went Out of Style
Some people are super arrogant to begin with. Others thing that it sounds better to be arrogant on a hookup site. In any case, arrogance tends to turn people off, particularly girls.
There’s a big difference between confidence and arrogance. Talking about how great you are, how well-endowed you are, how much better you are than the next profile, will turn people off.
Yeah, you’re looking for a hookup, but the two of you will probably talk on the phone and in person some. Nobody wants to expose themselves to a complete jerk.
Your Bio Picture Looks Completely Fake
Did you download Brad Pitt’s Fight Club abs and make them your profile picture?
If so, its more obvious than you might understand. We get it, you might not want to put your real facial picture on a hookup site, particularly if your looking for affairs and such. But don’t go completely douchebag fake. That will get spotted immediately.
Don’t Get Into Disputes
If someone messages you something rude, just block them and move on. If you feel a chat falling apart, kindly bow out. Otherwise, your hookup site reputation may get tarnished.
Now, if someone is trying to scam you, report them. That helps protect us all. But if a chat session is falling apart, don’t fight. Just move on. There are plenty of Fuckbook fish in the sea, no need to exaust energy into negativity.
If Someone Does Message You, Be Positive
It would be impossible for me to tell you how often we read complaints about negative people.
It usually goes like this:
“Hi, I found your profile interested and you live near, what’s up?”
“I hope you aren’t another loser.”
This makes it seem as though you don’t get along with other people. It tarnishes her opening message to you with a thick coat of negativity. You can’t recover from that.
Everyone knows that whether you use a mainstream dating site, or a hookup site like Fuckbook, there’s a share of jerks on the site. You don’t need to point that out. If someone messages you, look at their profile. If they don’t seem your cup of tea, take a pass on them.
Hookup site and mainstream dating sites are mostly worlds apart. But don’t think that a hookup site is an excuse to be a lazy, arrogant idiot. Its by no means the right way to go. You need to put in some effort. And as mentioned in the opening paragraph, you really should put in effort beyond just making a good profile. Sending custom, tailored messages to local singles who match your criteria is the most optimal way to find a sexy hookup.